Diatribe With Dave: Five Moves That'll Piss Off Your Bartender

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Every second and fourth Wednesday night of the month, legendary bartender/chef/restaurant insider Dave Mau hosts Dinner with Dave at Memphis at the Santora, where he treats drinkers to a free meal and live music as the evening progresses. To remind ustedes of this great night, Dave treats us every Wednesday morning that he's on to a random OC food or drink musing of his choice. Enjoy!

My grandfather Herman Mau had two great sayings. The first was "You speak German to your horse and French to your mistress" (he was German by the way). The other was "There are three people you keep around: a good barber, a good lawyer and a good bartender".
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Herman Mau: Class act all the way
Herman was shop manager at the Cadillac dealership on Nob Hill in The City from the 1930s until the 1950s. He was a fine example of mid-century West Coast cocktail chic and one hell of a nice guy. He regarded bartending as a true calling and noble pursuit, one that was to be valued as much as the services of a well-heeled attorney.

Fast-forward five decades and here I am, an avid fan of both sides of the bar and a proud member of the OC cocktail brotherhood. I started bartending as a matter of necessity and, as time goes on, still do so regardless of my other pursuits. During my time in the visual effects industry and slugging it out at the tail end of the dot.com boom, I was pouring drinks and dodging punches at Linda's Doll Hut. Even when chefing at my own shops, I have always bartended because I love it so. People rarely show up at the bar to have a lousy time and once you get the screwballs figured out, bartending isn't really even work. You're getting paid (sometimes quite well) to hang out and be social.

Now, don't get me wrong: If I was slinging frozen drinks to jackasses at TGI Fridays or Joe's Crab Shack, I'd be suicidal. But the shops I've been a part of have always been independently run and had their own rules. There is no reason to put up with lousy attitudes or self-entitled clients and the exit has always been conveniently located to have either or both of them leave. Over the years I have encountered an unfortunate number of rookies who are likely unaware of Herman's vision of the profession.

A lot of people don't realize that, depending on your attitude, your bartender can make or break your night (and I've done plenty of both!) Piss him/her off, and you are likely to get a short pour, finger in your drink or much worse. Here are the top five moves that really irk that person on the other side of the bar.

1. Ask "What's Good?"
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You know what's good? Booze. Booze is good. Hovering at the bar with your eyes all glazed over and drool coming out of your mouth while the bartender waits is just plain insulting. At the very least say, "I need a moment." It's common courtesy.

2. Don't Come In Waving a Recipe
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Bartenders don't show up at whatever coffee joint you work at and tell you how to make lattes. Extend them the same courtesy. Aside from a few exceptions, I think most bartenders take pride in what they do for a living, and the OC craft cocktail set has created a new breed that is (sometimes irritatingly) all-too familiar with their chosen vocation. Don't hold up your smart phone with a drink recipe on the screen or bring in one of those cardboard recipe cards that slip over the neck of Parrot Bay bottles. Your barkeep may or may not be amenable to learning a new drink, but that's their call.

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Memphis At The Santora - CLOSED

201 N. Broadway, Santa Ana, CA

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18 comments
dancinchihuahau
dancinchihuahau

I have not done any of the things in this article.  I like to think I'm a good patron, but there are things about bartenders that can irritate me. Only fair to see both sides. I'm referencing places I go mid-late afternoon when they aren't that busy. Not a crowded football day or weekend night:

1) On the phone, looking out the window or elsewhere and don't pay attention to who might walk in or who might want a drink at the bar

2) leaving the bar for 10 minutes or more and then getting irritated when you call them on it (turns it around to be your problem not wanting to wait - they left because the bar wasn't busy enough)

3) chatting with other patrons and don't notice who is coming in or who might want another drink

4) Won't carry over your tab because they have to leave

5) Bitching about their problems when you simply ask, "how are you today?"

 

ageofknowledge
ageofknowledge

You forgot the most important one of all: Go on the wagon and stop drinking alcohol forever.

jobeers
jobeers

#7. Yelling. ANYTHING. Doesn't matter if it's HEY! or BARTENDER! or whatever. The best way to not served is to demand a drink. And if you whistle, you're an ass-bite.

#8. NEVER TOUCH A BARTENDER And keep your grimy fingers out of the fruit caddy!

 

TyleDurden
TyleDurden

Bartenders are the most self-entitled pricks in the world.  Make my drink and get over yourself bro.

thesch
thesch

I think my dog is gay, i saw him banging another male dog.. what the fk is wrong with this world when a dog cant tell the difference..

Exador
Exador

" her purse/junk drawer" HAHA - perfect.

TheRefriedMexican
TheRefriedMexican

#6 - Showing up with your buddies on a slow night. Right before last call and ordering a plethora of drinks right after the bartender has already Saran wrapped the liquor bottles, stocked the fridges with tomorrow's supply and sanitized the beer spouts.

qdpsteve
qdpsteve

I'm surprised that one of these isn't "ask for the world's most obscure drink with the most obscure name, then scream at your bartender for a beer when he apologizes and says he doesn't know how to make it."

Joel White
Joel White

Oh yeah, it's Wednesday. It's his Dinner with Dave night.

OC Weekly
OC Weekly

Joel: He'll be at Memphis tonight!

Joel White
Joel White

Fuckin' a! Dave Mau was in this? He used to shop in my store. I miss that guy. I have been meaning to stop by his restaurant. Lol

Vanessa Barnes
Vanessa Barnes

It's so true. Another one I love is "What do you have?" I move on to the next person. That's an automatic lost turn.

JBinOC
JBinOC topcommenter

#4: LOL

jobeers
jobeers

 @TyleDurden

 come into my bar and I'll make your drink. With a big ol saucy heaping of phlegm on top!

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