Rancho Santa Margarita Forms Committee to Help Draft Anti-Bullying Ordinance: Update

See the update at the end of this post on the Rancho Santa Margarita City Council forming a committee to help draft California's anti-bullying ordinance.

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He's a victim?

ORIGINAL POST, JUNE 25, 6:02 A.M.: This post was supposed to be about the Rancho Santa Margarita City Council tonight considering an anti-bullying ordinance, but then, like manna from the sky, fell a press release from a controversial drug rehab offering a program to rehabilitate bullies, from the perspective that they are "victims."

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Newport Beach-based Morningside Recovery was famously blown off by Lindsay Lohan and offered a scholarship in Cory Monteith's honor a few days after the Glee star's overdose death.

But Newporters who lived near Morningside's sober living homes knew it more as the bane of their existence because of the noise, cigarette smoke and other nuisances. The company announced last summer it would close its residential rehabs in Newport Beach and move them to other nearby cities, including Costa Mesa, where similar complaints about sober-living homes have irked residents and city leaders as well.

Now Morningside is "pioneering" a special treatment program for clients with histories of bullying, "addressing their needs as victims." The idea is those who bully were at some point bullied themselves, something they may not realize until it comes out "in a safe, therapist-led group environment," according to Jacqueline Hoagland, Morningside Recovery's primary therapist.

"Often, clients with bullying histories don't make the connection between the memories of these past experiences and their role as emotional triggers in their addictions or psychological issues," she explains in the program's announcement. "Now there are more avenues than ever for bullying to take place, and it's something that happens among children, adolescents and adults alike."

Morningside Recovery calls its "bully-proof treatment track" the first of its kind, with a goal of restoring the inner-strength and self-esteem of those who use their superior strength to sap the self esteem of others.

"Bullying is a community issue that requires compassionate role models at home, the workplace, the classroom, and in therapy," Hoagland mentions. "Building rapports of understanding and empathy is essential to bullying prevention and treatment."

Or, you could just outlaw bullying, as Rancho Santa Margarita Councilman Brad McGirr proposes in his ordinance that would, for the first time anywhere in California, fine parents or guardians whose children bully other minors physically, verbally or psychologically--in person, over the phone or via social media (a.k.a. cyberbullying).

Actually, you can credit social media with driving McGirr to act. He credits a YouTube video of a 15-year-old Canadian girl who said she was bullied and who later committed suicide. Then there was this, much closer to home for McGirr:

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"It's always been an issue that bothered me," McGirr told the Orange County Register, revealing that as a minor a fellow student would flick his ears, throw him against lockers, spit in his food and shoot him with a BB gun.

Too bad McGirr's tormenter was not labeled a victim so he could shuffle into rehab.

UPDATE, JUNE 26, 9:14 A.M.: The Rancho Santa Margarita City Council agreed Wednesday night to put together a study group composed of parents, law enforcement and school and city officials to come back with a plan to move the ordinance forward.

"If this were a disease akin to Ebola or AIDS ... it would be all over the news," Brad McGirr, the councilman who proposed the drafting of such an ordinance, said during the meeting. "People would be running around looking for a vaccine like crazy ... but this is something that is insidious, where parents don't necessary know what is going on and it's not their fault."

McGirr had proposed fining a parent or guardian of a bully up to $500 through what would become California's first anti-bullying ordinance. A similar law was proposed but not approved in Carson earlier this year. Cities in Wisconsin and Missouri are currently the only places in the nation with anti-bullying ordinances.

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sweetliberty17761776
sweetliberty17761776 topcommenter

go goog the black mcdonalds worker beating up a felow co-worker who is white 


and even threatens the womens young child 



and the attacker is "the victim" according to leftists 




tongue_twister_for_t
tongue_twister_for_t topcommenter

Uh, they can't have a bully committee when the trustees are bullies themselves, it negates the points and authorities.

whateveryousay
whateveryousay topcommenter

For the love of god.  

The wussification of America's youth is almost complete.

Whatever happened to parents whooping their kids when they screwed up?

Whatever happened to climbing trees and BB guns?  


Brainwashed_in_church
Brainwashed_in_church topcommenter

"We're sorry Mr. ProspectiveStudent, but even though you have a 4.3 GPA and can throw a football 60 yards, we can't accept you to our university because you were found guilty of bullying when you were 15."



BBAIN
BBAIN

"You just got your asses whipped by a bunch of goddam nerds... NERDS!!!"

18usc241
18usc241

If this ordinance passes in RSM, I conclude that Sandra Hutchens and her deputies will be banned from entering the jurisdiction, no?

fishwithoutbicycle
fishwithoutbicycle topcommenter

What's the official name for this "treatment"? "Sympathy for the Devil"? :-(

tongue_twister_for_t
tongue_twister_for_t topcommenter

@whateveryousay  Uh, they can't have a bully committee when the trustees are bullies themselves, it negates the points and authorities.

tongue_twister_for_t
tongue_twister_for_t topcommenter

@whateveryousay  Uh, they can't have a bully committee when the trustees are bullies themselves, it negates the points and authorities.

fishwithoutbicycle
fishwithoutbicycle topcommenter

@whateveryousay 

Ah, yes, the classic "wussification of America's youth" argument. Sorry, but having respect and compassion for your fellow human beings is not a weakness!

fishwithoutbicycle
fishwithoutbicycle topcommenter

@Brainwashed_in_church 

Oh please...if Mr. ProspectiveStudent can throw a football 60 yards they'll just ignore the fact that he was a bully...and look the other way if he still is.

sweetliberty17761776
sweetliberty17761776 topcommenter

@fishwithoutbicycle @whateveryousay


unless that "respect and compassion" are words used to coverup


"revenge" and hate for the euro-centric American system 


that yes, has been "Abused" by people in charge


but still THE only system that allows people the freedom to pursue honorable goals and live free from tyranny 

whateveryousay
whateveryousay topcommenter

@fishwithoutbicycle @whateveryousay It was really directed at the Rancho Santa Margarita City Council considering an anti-bullying ordinance.  

My point, if not made clear, is that when I was growing up when kids bullied their parents were told and a whooping/grounding occurred.  After said whooping/grounding things would typically stop.  If they didn't, more whooping/grounding. 

Today, with my own eyes, I've witnessed parents do nothing.  Why, I don't know.  But it has taken us to a place in time where a city council will consider an anti-bullying ordinance.  

Maybe, just maybe, parents of the bullied and the bullying should grow some courage (or a spine) and do something on their own about it.  


fishwithoutbicycle
fishwithoutbicycle topcommenter

@whateveryousay @fishwithoutbicycle 

There are several "anti-bullying" campaigns out there...but the fact that RSM has to pass an ordinance that fines parents for failing to control their little sociopaths-in-training does strongly indicate there's more work to be done. However, I don't think bringing back corporal punishment is the answer.

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