Tasha Tells All...On What Women REALLY Want!

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Every Monday, adult superstar/OC girl Tasha Reign gives us her thoughts on life, sex, politics and everything in between. Today, Tasha weighs in on what women REALLY want. Enjoy!

Men always ask me what women want--in bed, in life, and how to "get" them or please them. I think I'm a good source to ask, seeing as that I love women and men and am pretty in tune with myself (a woman) on many levels. Every girl is different, of course, so take my insight with a grain of salt, but I've been around long enough to know that the majority of women will feel like me on the important things.


When I look for a man, I'm always attracted by their confidence and ability to pursue me without seeming too forward and creepy. I like a man who can take control in more ways than one and show me that he's direct and knows what he wants. I want a man to show me who's boss--that's to say, I'm so strong and independent that I want a guy who can respect me but will be able to play the role of boyfriend and not force me to be in charge, like I am so much of the time. When 50 Shades of Grey came out, I knew it was going to be controversial, but I couldn't believe an author had the ability to identify exactly what the general population of women want, what their sexual desires are, and how they imagine a perfect and idealized man.

Back to what women want: after that initial attraction, women want to feel special and targeted, not just someone you happen to stumble across. Most would like you to make the moves on her and be the aggressor, but at the same time act like you have a lot going on--that you're busy and that it's important to get to know her as a person and not just a hot piece of ass. Making sure you're confident and that you appear active and driven are as important as pursuing her and making sure she knows you're thinking about her through text and phone calls. I never take a man seriously who only texts--even if I plan on making him a casual hookup partner, I want them to put in some effort and show that they didn't just text me to bang it out. If you're going after an in-demand girl then you need to stand out from the crowd. Think of it as online dating--you are not going to send out some silly mass message if you're actually interested in the girl and want her to respond accordingly, are you?

Gender roles: my favorite topic. I have so much fun with this because they're ultimately superficial and not the reason you love someone. I know other women feel this way as well, and it sounds less progressive than we as a society are used to, but it's human nature and basic animal instinct. Women want a man who is going to make sure their emotional, intellectual, financial, and moral needs are met. Most women want a man who is a breadwinner, a man who is going to be the "hunter," so to speak. If men understand this basic principle, they're off to a good start.

But this is something that can be difficult to understand or talk about because we as females want equality and equal opportunity in many parts of life. There is something sacred and specific about a relationship between a man a women and how that reflects what we as women want--and I don't just mean finances and financially caring for your girl but you want to be able to do the "manly" stuff for her: the handy work, the sex, the barbecuing, the masculine activities that makes our panties wet.

When I'm in a relationship, I love giving myself fully in the bedroom. I'll attempt to bake or at least pick up food and pretend I cooked it. I'll look beautiful and dress up for my man. In turn, us women want appreciation. We want the compliments, and we want the acknowledgement of all of our efforts to please and cater to you. Attention is what women want--it sounds so simple.

Oh, yeah: SEX!!! What do women want in the bedroom? What do you want in the bedroom? GOOD SEX! But that's another column...in the meanwhile, guys: read, and learn!

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RonaldMexico
RonaldMexico

Confidence is the key word, but a calm assertive demeanor not a cocky douche. This is why people screw up the message, they think confidence is the same as being a stuck up prick. Thanks for the article, I hope it helps out some guys - I have been married and on the same honeymoon for 13 years now.

origen01
origen01

This is actually very good and practical advice.  It would certainly get you laid (eventually, as it is really over-work).  But for LTRs it can get kind of tricky. You can do all the things Tasha prescribes and act in such a uniquely masculine fashion but things eventually fall apart.  You lose your job, you lose your confidence, you lose your limb.... And when things fall apart the woman would leave your ass.  Then what are going do?


These things are nice on a superficial level but in life you have to go the foundation.  Love is the foundation and love is unconditional.

Adri Oddo Amaral
Adri Oddo Amaral

OC Weekly, I'm embarrassed for you... this is the 3 time, you insult your readers intelligence with nonsense from nonsense. OC as a whole has better to offer than that! It's getting old.

Chris J Caroselli
Chris J Caroselli

1: Porn stars are as detached from the real world as it gets, they know as much about love and relationships as the plumber I called last week to fix my sink. I wouldn't ask an alcoholic how to quit drinking, and it makes as much sense to ask a porn star how to land a relationship in the real world. 2. Nice disclaimer about how not all women are alike, but it doesn't absolve this bimbo of how her, her skanky friends, and their dirtbag boyfriends are ruining this country. 3. If the best advice she can offer is "We'll pretend we know how to cook and dress up for you, all you need to do is give us attention and bring home money every week" then I really hope you have Plan B lined up for who to replace her with.

Tiff Gause
Tiff Gause

Oh! Thank god for Tasha! I was beginning to be concerned that your readers may actually believe that women are individuals who cannot be generalized in an entire massive group. My favorite line is this: "Most women want a man who is a breadwinner, a man who is going to be the "hunter," so to speak. If men understand this basic principle, they're off to a good start." Tasha- I cannot thank you enough for cutting through the bullshit of the first and second waves of feminism. We females only want someone to bring home that bacon. Why the fuck did it take so long for someone to articulate this?! Way to keep it real OC Weekly.

MerLaMer
MerLaMer

@Adri Oddo Amaral It's not just with this column... It's like they wanted to stop paying people to write for them so they just hired a bunch of interns. 


RonaldMexico
RonaldMexico

@Adri Oddo Amaral What did she say that was wrong? Or do you just not like her for the way she earns a living?

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