Let Them Eat (a Gay Wedding) Cake: Gay Activists Get Their Valentine's Day on at Orange County Courthouse

Linda May said it took her a long time to bake the "domestic partnership" cake she displayed Tuesday outside the Orange County Courthouse at 211 W. Santa Ana Blvd. in downtown Santa Ana.

She said the cake is symbolic of the gay community's efforts to overturn laws against same-sex marriage. 

"There are a lot of metaphors here," May, 62, said of the lemon and coconut cake topped with two doves. "It's a lot harder than I thought it would be. One of the things I discovered is icing covers up a lot of flaws."

May and other members of the Orange County Equality Coalition celebrated Valentine's Day by heading to the red sandstone courthouse -- where heterosexual brides snapped photos with their new hubbies -- to request marriage licenses and speak against Proposition 8,  the state's limit of marriage to one man and one woman, which was approved by voters in 2008.

A three-judge panel of the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals last week ruled 2-1 that Proposition 8 violates equal protection rights under the U.S. Constitution. Still, same-sex marriages will not be legal until an appeal of the court's decision is resolved, with the matter likely winding up at the U.S. Supreme Court

"I'm a little more optimistic that we might get gay marriage this year..." May said.  "I hope they lift the stay."

She spoke with curious passersby who stopped to look at the cake, which sat on a table next to an American flag, and the rainbow flag of the gay pride movement.

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May talks to Masciana, as Lee looks on
Arnie Masciana and his fiance visited the courthouse to watch couples celebrate their weddings on Valentine's Day. The 63-year-old salesman from Costa Mesa said he's never been a supporter of gay marriage, but May's presentation helped him reconsider.

"I think domestic partnerships should be the same across the board for everybody," he said.

Dana Lee, a 22-year-old Huntington Beach resident and volunteer for the coalition, said she wants the opportunity to be married and have all the responsibilities that come with it.  

"A lot of the rights are there [in domestic partnerships], it's just the social aspect of marriage is different," Lee said. "No one wants to go to a domestic partnership ceremony. It doesn't have the same ring to it."

Dave Hoen, a 61-year-old resident of Santa Ana, has been wedded to his husband twice -- once in San Francisco in 2004,  which was nullified by the California Supreme Court, and again on Election Day in 2008.  The couple has been together for more than 20 years.

"It's about companionship," Hoen said. "People sometimes always go to the sex thing. It has nothing to do with sex."

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Mab754
Mab754

Gays are Equal.. 

mitch young
mitch young

More than equal, if you look at the STD rates.

Guest
Guest

If she thought baking a cake was hard, just wait until she says "I do."

FishWithoutBicycle
FishWithoutBicycle

"What do I look like...a baker?" (Punch line to a joke in Hustler magazine) ;-)

909Jeff
909Jeff

"It's about companionship," Hoen said. "People sometimes always go to the sex thing. It has nothing to do with sex.

Baloney!You already have companionship! Its about estate planning and being able to pass your assets to your "spouse" tax frrrrreeeeeeee! (Among other financial considerations)

Nice to see there was no mention of Chuck Smith or Rick Warren today!

mitch young
mitch young

Actually I disagree Jeff. As one person quoted in the article noted, almost everything in a 'marriage' is available in a domestic partnership. This is about not only 'tolerance', but forcing all of us to recognize homosexual sexual relationships as 'the same' as heterosexual ones, on a par with the ones that, you know, are the way that humans actually procreate.

909Jeff
909Jeff

The IRC is based on Federal Law and the feds dont recognize same sex unions.  Therefore assets cannot pass from one man to another and maintain a qualified status.  It would be subject to taxation.  Whereas If I died tomorrow my wife could take over my IRA, Roth, and 401k, make it her own and avoid taxation. also there are cases of terminal illness where the persons "domestic partner" is not allowed to make medical and financial decisions that are automatically granted to male/female spouses.  Of course they can choose anyone to be POA and make certain decisions but is an extra legal step that they have to take and pay for.  Also If a gay person had children in a prior marriage and that person doesn't have a properly structured trust and they die then his or her kids can come in and lay claim to any assets as legally defined next of kin leaving the deceased persons "domestic partner" with nothing.  Couldn't happen in under a current male/female. well except in rare circumstances (think Anna Nicole)  

I'm sorry I kinda wrote like Beta Ray Bill there but I was in a hurry! 

mitch young
mitch young

Well to me the state making a 'marriage' between a man and man or woman and woman 'equal' is like saying 4+4=5. Both 2000 years of Western (and as far as I can tell, Eastern, and Hindu and Islamic) tradition and biology is on the side of 'opposite marriage' (in the words of Carrie Prejean). 

Moxley seems like he is losing it. You after all give way more info in your moniker than the average commenter (first name and area code), and is it entirely unreasonable that  'Mitch Young' could be a real name -- not saying it is or isn't, but if it was, it could be the guy that edited this

http://www.worldcat.org/title/...for example.

Yeah, we are two ignoramuses.  

909Jeff
909Jeff

Absolutely I can leave my assets to whoever I want look at Leona Helmsley she left millions to her dog... But it will not pass without being taxed which can be a pretty hefty bill.  You can only pass assets to a spouse or an endowment (generally charity or alma mater) without being taxed and just using simple numbers, and I certainly hope we all retire with more than this, but lets say you have an IRA worth 100K when you die if it goes to your wife she gets 100k... Likewise you and you're wife are both smeared across the freeway and it goes to your kid they are gonna get 100k and then come April 15th the IRS is gonna ask for approx 35k and California is gonna come knocking for about another 10K and it can be worse if your kids are well off they might even reject the inheritance because it could cause them to go into a higher tax bracket and really eff shit up.  

this is kinda what I do for a living... even though moxley says I'm uneducated and all.

But I will concede to you that you're right that they will not stop until they are granted the same and equal rights to marriage... I dont have a dog in the hunt so I wish them luck. 

mitch young
mitch young

Sounds like you know estate planning, Jeff. I certainly don't, but what happens to any money in an IRA if both members of a couple expire? Does the state get it? Surely there must be some way of directing the assets to a chosen recipient, even if that may take an extra step or two.

I still maintain that even if all these slight hassles were eliminated, that the homosexual lobby would not be satisfied until they got that word 'marriage' on their licenses. It is about state certification of a sexual relationship as exactly equal to the heterosexual one -- which of course is just to ignore our nature as mammals.

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